One fine day, my little brother was watching my father lifting the heavy stuff out of the room. He turned to my sister and said, “Dad is like a Wonder Woman”. My mother was sitting on the couch nearby and she smiled. As a parent, my mother was extremely trying to discard the orthodox messages of gender roles. If my brother compares dad’s strength with Wonder Woman, my mother has given him a belief; a belief that he never develops the mental barriers — so numerous in our society — that explains what women can and can’t do.

We could still see adults telling kids that if you are a boy, you are stronger and more powerful. And if you are born a girl, you are sweet and powerless. I can’t exactly tell where these ideas are coming from but there are a lot of subjects that support the idea. For instance, I have seen my little brother picking up the black and blue color for him while on the other hand, he picks the pink color for his sister despite his previous Wonder Women comment. Similarly, he wants a black cup for his drinks but prefers a pink one for his sister.

The idea is clear, my mother wants my sister to love the character of Iron man over Captain Marvel and my brother to love Pink Power Ranger over Red Power Ranger not destroying the love of them in any form. That does not mean she stops my brother from playing his favorite baseball game and my sister from loving doll games. She is only harvesting the seeds of gender equality on both of them unanimously.

We are living in a country where a family with a son and a daughter wants their son to be a doctor and a daughter to be a nurse. A male driver is a respectable job, but a female driver is seen as the opposite. A son is wished to be a pilot and a daughter to be a nurse. However, things are getting changed gradually but the ideology will live for quite a time from now.

We have all the time to shape the future of the next generations. But for that, we have to make sure that the ideas and social indications they are witnessing and absorbing are applied concepts like equality and responsiveness. I want my brother and sister to grow up thinking that girls can be Batman and boys can be Wonder Woman. Gender equality isn’t controversial or political — it’s just common sense.

-Mukesh Pyakurel
Student of BBA from Washington University of Virginia

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